Six hours of suffering on bad Friday, WHY?

Six hours of suffering on Bad Friday, WHY?

Good Friday has always been the most confusing ‘holiday.’   Banks and the Post Office are open but the stock market is closed and has been every year except for two years since 1889.  Some businesses are closed and some school systems, except in 12 states schools are open as usual.  Although when I wrote this story originally in 2019   in my current home state of North Carolina did not observe Good Friday.  Now they do.      Easter is a holiday that is observed but for the kids in school and people on the job who wish they were at home on Friday.  Easter Sunday does not provide a day off.  Thus, for those not in the 12 states in their minds, Friday is not a holiday.   Apparently, in the good old USA, Good Friday, compared to the rest of the world, is a Bad Friday.

About 55 years ago, I asked my Catholic Mom why Good Friday was not a holiday (Ohio is not one of the 12 states); she said ‘because Jesus died on a Friday and it was a sad day, Easter is THE important day to remember.’    I said, But Mom, we don’t get a day off for Easter, why don’t they just give us Friday off, so we don’t have to go to school?   And Mom, why do we call it good Friday when it seems like it was all bad with Jesus dying?   This went on for a while as I pleaded for her to let me stay home from school.  I asked why, why, why, when she finally blurted out ‘Because you need to learn to suffer like Jesus did!  Now shut up and get out the door before you miss the bus.‘    According to my Mother, who seldom got irritated or mad, that is all I needed to know at that moment!

In researching the topic of why Good Friday and Easter are not considered one of the twelve official federal holidays (see the history of it all here)   the most common answer to the why is that – congressional leaders sought to keep a separation of church and state in place.   Some say that because Easter was on a Sunday, there was no sense in making it a federal holiday, as it was always on a Sunday.  This seems like a logical explanation, but that does not explain why Christmas is a federal holiday.   Nor does it explain the fact that holidays like July 4th that could fall on a Sunday roll over to a Monday, but Easter does not.

In America, where supposedly between 70 – 80% of the population professes some form of Christianity, Good Friday and Easter are not considered no-work holidays.   Yet there are 127 countries that close all government offices, schools, and banks.  Several of them consider it a 4-day weekend, including India, where only 2-3% of the population is Christian.

I cannot explain WHY most businesses and the government in the USA have chosen to ignore the significance of Good Friday.  Perhaps it is because we ‘celebrate’ holidays and someone dying on a particular day in history is not celebratory.  Nor can we/I explain the oddness that we honor former Presidents based on George Washington’s birthday, and MLK’s birth date, not his death date,  Why?    As a side note, Good Friday 2025 is my 65^th birthday.  I honestly never expected to make it this far, so for me, it is a very good Friday.  If I were not retired I would have had to work like all the other years.

Meanwhile, we have Memorial Day and Veterans Day both of which are solemn days. And nobody has a party on MLK day, it is rightfully treated as a solemn day, mostly.  Is that why Juneteenth was added as a Holiday? So, why not add Good Friday as the counterpart to Christmas?    It is also difficult to explain the historical evidence that Jesus was crucified and died a horrible torturous death; should it have been called ‘Bad Friday’ instead?  And Why then is Christmas not treated like MLK Day?    Am I the only one confused?

In my life and extra during semi-retirement for the last eight years I have had many conversations with both young and old where the topic of why do bad things happen to good people arises nearly every time.  Having volunteered in organizations that help domestic violence victims, mothers without fathers at help pregnancy centers, human and sex trafficking rescue organizations, and addiction help centers,  – I have seen numbers of people with long histories of undeserved abuse and traumas. Many suffer from mental illnesses. 

Often, the feeling is that people don’t care, and God doesn’t either.  I would have to agree with the first part; although many people do care, the majority do not.  But when it comes to God I have found God indeed cares deeply, but people miss important details about Him and this world we live in.  With all those in need, those who overcome do so when they can find answers to the Why’s. It is NEVER easy.  The horror stories we hear, see, and live are not from movies; they are real.

I cover some of the examples and pinpoint some real-life stories that happened locally in my own once peaceful and quiet community.  It is detailed in part 5 of a 6-part series about the failures in our justice system.  I believe some bad things happen because our dealings with criminals are lax.     This message is not on that topic but should be considered when looking at the big picture.

The best answer to the why question of whether the day of Jesus’ murder was a good Friday or a bad Friday(?)  requires examining everything, including seemingly insignificant facts about what happened that day. It was six years ago that this was first published and I felt it important to refresh the links and bring them into consideration again.  There are still no answers to the same questions asked back then.

I had pondered for months, WHY after being awake all night and then being tortured with a skin-ripping whip, did Jesus have to stay hanging on a cross for SIX more hours before dying?  Why not make it a few minutes and get the hell over with quickly?   If you can bear to hear at least SIX details answering the WHY, then keep on reading. 

Otherwise, carry on like it is not important, as much of the country I live in seems to treat this small letter good friday

Please don’t go away yet! Read below the red line for more. If this is your first time visiting Average Joe’s Portico, every post is written in two parts. You have just read the portion challenging the mind, body, and soul.  In or on The Portico (as in Solomon’s Portico or porch), I seek to tap into your spiritual side, but only IF YOU DARE.  If you are in a mood of ‘don’t shove God down my throat’, this part is not for you, it is your out. Otherwise, Keep reading past the Red Line Below and read Part 2  for the Spiritual side of this story.  (For an explanation of this creative writing attempt – read the ‘Do You Dare’ Tab) 

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Someone recently criticized me again, (but criticism no longer bothers me, you have to have a backbone in this new world we live in) saying I can be a bit irreverent of God when I ask the question Why so often?  They went on to say you should just accept the Bible for what it says and obey, nothing more.  There are seemingly many contradictory statements, and actions, made by people and words can be misconstrued.  But just as 100 Google searches could not reveal a solid answer as to why the USA has chosen not to set aside a special non-work day for either Good Friday or Easter, there were also many good why answers. 

I believe God wants to reveal His love and wisdom in every possible way to show people that HE is always good and is always loving.  How those two words are defined varies vastly across the globe and across time.  Asking why when things are hard to understand to me is not irreverent, it is like a child asking a Father questions about things they do not understand.  I think my Father likes deep conversations.  I think He also wants us to be aware of the very intricate and detailed things He is doing in the Universe.  And most amazingly, He wants us to know what He is doing in each of our own little lives amid 8 billion+ people walking around on this earth.  That’s right, somehow He has a database and communication system vast enough to handle it all.  Tell me that is not miraculous in and of itself.

Six months ago I had one of those why conversations for the 100,000^th time in my life, it seems. I peeked at my iPhone on the side of the bed and amazingly, it was exactly 6 a.m. Life was falling apart around me again, similar to a period where I learned that through storms in life, we can either crumble or put on our full armor and fight through it. In that story, which I wrote about in 2018  point number one was regarding a brain health issue that struck someone close to our family.  Well, it happened to another person, and this time it was far worse than the last one.  Four hospital visits, ambulances, mistakes by the ER and doctors that exacerbated it all, and nearly $300k in bills. (97% of which was covered by insurance, thank God!)

I received lots of advice from well-meaning people across the globe all of who had not only the answers to the why questions (most of which were incorrect) but some told me how our lack of faith and all sorts of other reasons were the cause.  If we just said a certain prayer, the whole problem would go away.   They, of course, said the words that make you go, hmm, ‘I and a bunch of other people are praying for you.’   Yet for six months, the person the torture was happening to (for their privacy I will speak only in generalizations) did not get better. 

It was a very rough road and there were points where I wanted to just quit everything and run away and hide.  But the good Lord showed me and those around my family that there are still many things in this universe we and others do not understand – at all.  Hang in there and it will get better, TRUST ME.  And it indeed has, tGbtg!

Furthermore, I am convinced He said as written in my journal, I have an additional task for you to add to your social justice warrior hat – fight stigmas towards mental health illnesses that permeate the workplaces, hospitals (that treat mental illness patients like prisoners), the justice system, and unfortunately, in the church world as well.

To accomplish this, I am excited that a new local church I’ve been attending for the past two years opened the doors to running a support group where we cover these topics. It is one that was crafted 15 years ago and has had revisions made each time we have learned new lessons.   The lion walking on the water should look familiar.

Back to the topic of Six very long hours that Jesus had to suffer on Good (or is it bad) Friday, WHY?

 Here’s the explanation as posted seven years ago. Too bad it wasn’t six, lol, the numbers don’t always have to be exact, but it is cool when it is. 

—- My brain, like the typical worrier, is in constant motion as thoughts go from one end of the spectrum to another.  If you haven’t already noticed, I unapologetically write the same way my brain operates.  My wife is way smarter and calmer than I am and reads way more than I do.  Sometimes she plants questions in my head, and one was about a moment of respect that some denominations set aside on Good Friday.   They stop all that they are doing to sit and think about the suffering that Jesus did on the cross for three hours.  She asked, “Why do they do that?”

My first response was to say it was SIX hours, not three. Yes a bit strange.   I knew that because I delved into that topic at one time, and it always bugged me that people misread those details.  Just like everything nowadays, people make assumptions that what is told to them is always correct.

Luke chapter 23 covers the details of how Jesus was nailed to the cross at modern time 9:00 a.m. and at noon the entire world became dark.  For the next three hours, it was completely dark until He died at 3:00 p.m.   You can find many more details about the time here and in other documents Here  and here   Some sectors of Christianity stop all they are doing for one of the 3 hour periods. 

Of course, there are debates on the date and amount of time.   For the must-have-100%-proof folks I can’t help you, for those who accept He was on the cross for Six full hours, let’s analyze the number SIX.

Here is not your typical blog writing where somebody lists six things, but I have to have a  title:

SIX REASONS GOOD FRIDAY WAS MORE THAN GOOD!

1. Common Biblical numerology identifies #6 as “the number of man” and “release from bondage.”
2. Six makes sense as a very important number in history since God created the Universe in 6 days, and man was created on the 6th day. Thus it is considered first off as “the number of man.”
3. We all should know from the 10 commandments God said we are to keep the Sabbath holy, as He created the earth in 6 days and rested on the 7th. The 7th day is to be spent spending time with God. Some call it worship, which sounds like work, but if you understood what it is like to be in the presence of God, worship is very easy and amazing.
4. Moses waited 6 days before he could meet God on the mountain. This is IMPORTANT: ” Exodus 24:15-17 “Then Moses went up to the mountain, and the cloud covered the mountain. ¹⁶ The glory and brilliance of the Lord rested on Mount Sinai, and the cloud covered it for six days. On the seventh day, God called to Moses from the midst of the cloud. ¹⁷ In the sight of the Israelites, the appearance of the glory and brilliance of the Lord was like consuming fire on the top of the mountain. (Mt Sinai)”   – Proving my point on what it is like in the presence of God.  What is key here is God was the only one who could make way for His Holy self to be ‘enterable,’ that is to be in His Presence. Thus Moses had to wait SIX days.  Once that happened he went up to the mountain in the cloud, and the OLD COVENANT was established with the written law of the 10 commandments being handed down.
5. It is the most common knowledge that the sign of Satan is 6-6-6. When the darkness struck over the earth, (I am speculating here) many teach that this was the only moment when God and Jesus were not One. Satan was given in essence 6 full hours to cause Jesus to suffer what no man has ever felt in history.     Some say it was ‘only’ 6 hours, while people like me who cannot handle the pain of a pierced finger for very long that it was an excruciating horrid amount of pain.  If you question what Jesus went through watch the movie The Passion by Mel Gibson, or read of what the gruesome details of what a crucifixion is like here.  The Passion by Mel Gibson or read e gruesome details of what a crucifixion is like here.  
6. It took six days before Moses could see God. It took (is it a coincidence?) six hours of suffering for all the sins of mankind before Jesus and his Father were united. And to add to the list of  Why’s and things we don’t understand, consider that we know after suffering a horrible death, 3 days later Jesus rose from the dead.  What no man could do to make things right on earth, only God could do (like only He could settle the cloud glory before Moses could see Him) by sending His
   1. son.

           3 Days and the 2 perfect ones meeting together created a new covenant  3 x 2 = 6 (SIX)

   By now perhaps you are aware every letter in the Hebrew alphabet has a numerical value and a word meaning or sometimes two. Do you know which letter the number 6 correlates to?

   The # Six = Vav which has 2 different meanings the 1st is a nail or peg in Hebrew. It is also a conjunction (“and”), for it takes a nail to connect two things.

   At the 6th hour, the Father and the son were re-connected.  After being nailed on a cross for 6 hours after having nails driven into His hands and feet, Jesus died but was immediately connected and reunited with the Father.I am buying Jesus hung on the cross exactly for 6 hours and there are probably many more reasons why God pieced together a new covenant in this way.  One in which all of man’s sins were forgiven proving God’s love for man and His desire to have a relationship with every person that chooses to believe in Him.  It was of extreme importance that the sacrifice of Jesus own life, God’s only Son, on good Friday GOOD FRIDAY WAS MORE THAN GOOD.  Knowing the number six represents man and the release from bondage together is once again NOT a coincidence as Jesus fulfilled man’s greatest need by dying on the cross.  Easter is equally as important in the proof of the goodness and greatness of God as Jesus raising from the grave proved He had defeated death!

   John Piper wrote:  “The death of Christ did not merely precede His resurrection–it was the price that obtained it. The Bible says He was raised not just after the blood-shedding, but by it. The wrath of God was satisfied with the suffering and death of Jesus. The holy curse against sin was fully absorbed. The price of forgiveness was totally paid. The righteousness of God was completely vindicated. All that was left to accomplish was the public declaration of God’s endorsement. This He gave by raising Jesus from the dead. When the Bible says, “If Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile, and you are still in your sins” (1 Corinthians 15:17, ESV*), the point is not that the resurrection is the price paid for our sins. The point is that the resurrection proves that the death of Jesus is an all-sufficient price.”

The above is one of several cliffnote highlights from Fifty Reasons Why He (Jesus) Came to Die by John Piper described in one of his books.   How vital it is that we grasp the sovereignly designed purposes behind the Passion of Jesus Christ.  Here are seven of them written by the late Billy Graham. 

I cannot cover it all in one blog.  If you think it is a joke or ‘indoctrination’ as some like to say, I cannot help you, but implore you to search out more if you doubt.  It is why I ask why in my relationship with the perfect and Holy God, and He is pleased to provide more reasons to believe.  Sometimes it is simply by answering my prayers, I tell of 7 out of 7 in this story   (if you read it, it says 6 1/2 out of 7, #7 was answered a week ago, TGBTG!)   The world gives you plenty of excuses to not believe, how about trying to read a few things to bring you to the light?

The topic of Christ’s suffering and suffering, in general, has long been a topic of difficulty.   For my Catholic friends here is  well-written dialogue, I cite 2 sections in an article from 2004.

“Did Christ have to suffer as he did to accomplish our salvation?    Or could that purpose have been achieved another way?  It’s an age-old question. Sixteen centuries ago, when Augustine addressed the matter, he noted that he was not the first person even back then to discuss it. “There are those,” the bishop wrote, “who say, ‘What? Did God have no other way to free men from the misery of this mortality?

When you think about that question, it adds further to the greatness of what Jesus did, as He absolutely had a choice.  He prayed in the garden while getting zero sleep before the good Friday.   He begged God (remember Jesus was on the earth as a man just like every single one of us.  He had a free choice) to say no;  “Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.” Luke 22:42.   Instead, post sweating blood from the stress and anxiety, He chose to go forward with the suffering He knew would be horrific.

And then, after being nearly beaten to death (which is NOT what happens to others who are crucified as criminals), He hung on the cross, with nails in his wrists and through His feet for a full SIX hours.    At any moment throughout the entire procedure, Jesus could have summoned His Father who could have come down and ended it all.  God could have sent a flood like the days of Noah, or fire and brimstone like Sodom and Gomorrah, all ways to stop sin and stop people from doing wrong.  God could have used His almighty power, but instead, in partnership with His willing Son, it all went down until He died.

Thomas Aquinas put it this way: “Just as man was overcome and deceived by the devil, so also it should be a man who should overthrow the devil. And since man deserved death, so it should be a man who, by dying, vanquishes death. That is why it is written: ‘Thanks be to God, who has given us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ’ (1 Cor. 15:57)”   The human race had been left in bondage to sin, death, and the devil by the Fall. So it was a fitting irony—a kind of poetic justice on God’s part—to use a member of that race to conquer sin, death, and the devil. The tables were turned; the roles were reversed; the victor was vanquished. Satan, who had fallen away from God through pride, was humiliated.”

Today religions and Christians fight oppression and evil too often on a political platform.  Our forefathers in the USA won freedom from the British by power and war.  Martin Luther King won a portion of freedom for blacks through peaceful matters.   Both are given days of honor in national holidays, yet not the greatest man who ever walked on the face of the earth as a human who won our freedom in a way that many do not understand at all.  Perhaps the decision-makers had made the same decision to not honor Jesus’ death that the Jewish leaders did, they wanted to see the Messiah come back and show freedom and salvation all by power. (yes I am speculating but setting up the next point)    “All by power” – a proof of strength rather than sacrifice. What they did not and many today do not understand is Jesus was in no way weak, He OVERCAME DEATH.   You have to die first to overcome death.  No one else has ever done such a thing and come back to talk about it.

Aquinas with help from Augustine summarizes what Jesus did and adds, what we as Christians should also do:  “If God wanted Christ, as a representative of mankind, to defeat Satan, and Christ had available to him all the power of God, why couldn’t Christ simply crush the devil in combat? Why submit himself to such torment?  The devil was to be conquered not by the power of God but by his righteousness. . . . For the devil, through the fault of his own perversity, had become a lover of power and a forsaker and assailant of righteousness. . . . So it pleased God that, in rescuing man from the grasp of the devil, the devil should be vanquished not by power but by righteousness.

In the same way, men, imitating Christ should seek to conquer the devil and evil in the world by righteousness, not by power.   In a sense, then, righteousness is itself a kind of might, but a higher kind than brute force. So it was more fitting that God should use the higher kind of might against an enemy whose perverse strategy was to use the lower kind. Righteousness thus defeated raw power.”

While I will not dare challenge theologians and attempt to say this expose on the #6 should be taught in every pulpit from here on out. I hope it has given you an increase in faith and belief that God knows what He is doing and has thought through in His infinite wisdom every angle.  Most important is seeking to reveal differently His amazing love which He seeks to prove to us always.  There are indeed many who lie and tell you it is not so.  I choose to believe God’s love is so great it is beyond our comprehension.

I stated in part 1, that the best answer to the why question of whether the day of Jesus’ murder was a good Friday or a bad Friday comes from examining the very deep details.  God had important reasons why Jesus died on the cross, obviously.  But, does Six hours of suffering make it a Bad Friday, or a Good Friday?  I believe God is more than good and He proves it by willingly going to the Nth degree on every detail including sacrificing His only Son for our sake. It should melt our hearts with complete gratitude.  That indeed makes it a very Good Friday.  And since we know the final score with the knowledge of His Resurrection Three days later it gives us every reason to celebrate it and have solemn moments ourselves in deep gratitude.

May your Good Friday be filled with gratitude,

and the JOY of Resurrection Day  (Easter)  fill you completely.

 

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